Why Her?

Why Her?
It is there, the question that you do not dare to ask it out loud, the ones you never want to admit and you probably wouldn't write it in your journal. As you circle around and look into yourself, you ask "why her?"

Those envious thoughts you have about her - the ones you aren't very proud of...
Why is her life so beautiful and perfect?
Why is everything working out so well for her?
Why she's so put together and I'm such a mess?
I'm not talking about "her" that you see on Instagram and Youtube that you merely follow/subscribe. Instead, it is "her" that you've had known personally. It could be that certain person from your friends or those that turned into a stranger, acquaintance, colleague, and even worse within your family. The thing I'd tell you is not to want it based on the attention it will get from other people, but to know the truth and what really matters. It matters because it's a struggle that we face. There's always gonna be someone ahead and we are always gonna be comparing ourselves but we can learn to combat it with God's truth.
overcoming comparison

LORD, You have searched me and known me (Psalm 139:1)

I sure wish I could say that this is not true about me. I hate to you say but me too. That "why her" silent question of my soul kept me in the comparison trap. It cripples me and I ask myself, "Am I not good enough just as myself?". I often feel the need to strive harder. There are times when I look at other's victory as my loss. When I desire something to happen in my life and hasn't happened yet. And I don't see it, yet I see it happening in other's life. 

"Why her Lord, and not me?", "I think I'm more deserving, I've had been good and all"

It is when I try to measure up which eventually leads to falling behind. Fear conquers and God's voice is lost in the mix. This is the moment when I find myself wrestling with God. And at that moment, that still small voice, I knew God was trying to whisper in my heart.

"I know, I hear you and I'm capable of blessing you but what if it would take time, would you still give me praise?", "What if I'm preparing you for something even greater, far more than you could imagine?"

Then I'm reminded that God is more concerned with my character than with my achievements. Believe me, I have my fair share in examining everytime my motives. Taking God's blessings and turning it to affirm for somebody else without knowing. Such foolishness that I allowed. Is it my truth or God's truth? At times I long for things to happen just because of others highlight reel looks so startling. Not knowing that I'm fighting to keep up with an unrealistic standard. I have to know that it's not always how it seems. God is never limited by what I have. 

Disappointment is inevitable. But God doesn’t want us to settle. He wants us to shift, shifting to praise. Afterall, we are made by God, for God, and until you understand that, life will never make sense. God's word is the way that we can walk to the fullness of who He has created us to be.
how to overcome comparison and start loving who you are
 I praise you Oh Lord, For I am fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm139:14)
There may not be a perfect answer to this why her question, it may be an ongoing question but with the transforming word of God, with inspirations and bits of advice that we get, we can silence the lies that steal joy in our life. It's important to hold on to what's true. Find contentment in your life without being complacent in who you are becoming. There’s so much that’s beautiful about you to lose it all on her. Wherever you are right now, believe that it's right where you're supposed to be. It's all good. 
I know there are some women out there who will say, "that's not my struggle", "that's not my issue" and that's okay I hear you and it's good to be in that position but we need to be completely honest here. That at some point in our life we find ourselves in this situation. The reality is denial has never really worked out well for anybody. Because Truth, like always, will set us free. And free women don't have to measure up to anybody. Not even her. 

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